What mindfulness is not

There is a common mis-conception abroad: that mindfulness is about emptying your mind. It is not. You cannot empty your mind. If you did, how would you know that? The very effort of trying to push away thoughts makes them push back stronger. The effort itself arises from the thought, “I must not have that …

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People who take care of people

The sad truth is, people whose professional roles require them to take care of others are often the worst at taking care of themselves. The NHS is groaning under the strain. The NHS is of course, not a thing but a vast complex sprawling system of people. Dedicated staff, be they doctors, nurses, admin staff, or …

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Breaking Bad

Whether it’s driving a car or negotiating the daily journey to work, we are all creatures of habit. Billions of nerve cells in our brain have, thanks to repetition, memory and learning, wired in patterns of behaviour like grooves on a record.  All good…. except when the automatic behaviour is detrimental and we can no …

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The Kindness Habit

“The Kindness Habit: transforming our relationship to addictive behaviours” is out now on Amazon. The book is a warm, compassionate and open dialogue between Christopher Dines, Dr Barbara Mariposa and an anonymous fellow traveller on the road to recovery. The authors share their experience of letting go of “false friends” (addictive behaviours) and their understanding of the healing …

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Is your boss making you ill?

Management style is a serious factor when it comes to mental health in the workplace. Do you find your boss to be somewhat lacking in the subtle arts of social skills? Is their managerial style characterised by telling you what to do rather than discussing that with you? Do they give you a task but …

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